Beaten: Maimuna Abdullahi, left, is pictured recently at the school in Nigeria which has taken her in after her ordeal.
Maimuna
Abdullahi was sold into marriage by her parents for £120 and abused by
her new husband, who locked her away and forced hard labour on her.
When
she ran home she was beaten, first by her father, then her husband, and
was summarily divorced by her husband for daring to flee - and she is
still just 14 years old.
She
is one of thousands in Nigeria with similar stories - and, shockingly,
her husband blames his beaten former bride for her ordeal, saying she
was disobedient and over-educated. Continue.....
After fleeing her husband Mahammadu
Saidu, who locked her away for days at a time, she was whipped by her
family for daring to come home, then attacked by her furious husband as
well.
Her battered face
swelled so much that doctors feared her husband had dislocated her jaw.
Her back and arms bristled with angry welts from the whipping her father
gave her.
She was gaunt from hunger, dressed in filthy rags. And barely a year after her wedding, she was divorced.
It would be a tragic story for a woman of any age. But for Maimuna Abdullahi, it all happened by the time she was 14.
'I'm
too scared to go back home,' she whispers, a frown crinkling her brow
as she fiddles nervously with her hands. 'I know they will force me to
go back to my husband.'
Maimuna is
one of thousands of divorced girls in Nigeria, children who were forced
into marriage and have since run away or been thrown out by their
husbands.
They
are victims of a belief that girls should get wed rather than educated,
which drew the world's attention after Boko Haram terrorists abducted
more than 200 schoolgirls two months ago and threatened to marry them
off. Most are still missing.
Attacker: Saidu, pictured, said he feared
marrying someone more educated would make him 'the wife'. After Maimuna
fled him, he divorced her
Maimuna's
former husband, Mahammadu Saidu, blames her few years of school for her
disobedience. A handsome man of 28 who is obviously proud of his
ankle-high boots, he does not deny beating his wife.
'She had too much ABCD,' he says. 'Too much ABCD.'
Nigeria, a young country of about 170 million, has one of the highest rates of child marriage in the world.
The
law of the land states that the age of consent, and thus of marriage,
is 18. However, the custom of child marriage is still ingrained enough
that even a middle-aged federal senator has married five child brides
and divorced at least one.
Across the country, one in five girls are married before the age of 15, according to the United Nations.
Escape: Maimuna ran away while her husband was
looking for work out of town - but was whipped by her father for daring
to come home
In
the desperately poor Muslim north, where child marriage is often
considered acceptable by shariah or Islamic law, that number goes up to
one in two.
This
is also where Boko Haram is trying to impose its extreme version of
Islam, changing the face of the region and especially of its girls.
Children
as young as five now hide their heads and shoulders in hijabs, a rare
sight just a few years ago. Some girls become wives as early as nine.
There
are no official numbers for just how many of these girls get divorced,
often ending up destitute and shunned by their families.
But
they are all too visible. A few miles from where Maimuna lives,
children her age and younger sell their bodies to truck drivers,
flitting in and out of vehicles.
Maimuna was saved from this fate by Saadatu Aliyu, who has turned an old family home into a school for divorced girls.
At
the Tattalli Free School, which gets by on private donations, a couple
of dozen girls gather in the courtyard for a sewing lesson. Toddlers
mill around, the children of divorced girls who came in pregnant.
'Nobody
knows how many thousands of them there are,' says Aliyu of the girls.
'That's why we have so many prostitutes, and very young ones, in the
north.'
Maimuna grew up on the outskirts of Kaduna, in a half-finished brick building on the edge of a middle-class suburb.
Her
father, a farmer called Haruna Abdullahi, picks up a stone and throws
it at a stray dog as scrawny as he is. At 45, he's been married for 30
years and has fathered eight children.
'It's
our culture to give our girls in marriage,' he says in a reasoning
tone. 'From the age of 12, a girl can go to her husband's house.'
His
wife, Rabi Abdullahi, nods, and asks her husband's permission before
talking. She too was a child when she married, although she does not
know exactly how old.
'It is our way of life,' she says. 'In my day, a bride would never dare to run away.'
Her
life is hard, she says, but her marriage good. She insists that her
husband is not a cruel man, pointing to a well he built so she did not
need to walk more than a mile to collect water.
The
tradition of child marriage is rooted partly in poverty. This is an
area where most people do not have running water, electricity or indoor
toilets, where children get only three or four years of schooling.
No sanctuary: Maimuna's parents, Rabi Abdullahi,
left and Haruna Abdullahi, right, have seven other children and say it
is not unusual to marry as young as 12
A marriageable daughter can bring in a bride price and mean one less mouth to feed.
So in late 2012, Maimuna's father arranged to marry his eldest daughter to his best friend's eldest son.
The
son, Saidu, paid a dowry of 35,000 naira (£120) for Maimuna - more cash
than Abdullahi has had in his life. She was 13, and he twice her age.
Saidu farms his own plot of land and owns a small motorbike, making him relatively well off and eligible.
He says he has known Maimuna all his life, and waited years for her to reach what he considers marriageable age.
'When she was a kid, I would bring her candy and call her "wifey",' he says. 'We were always meant to be together.'
Saidu left his village school at fifth grade, the highest level offered, and says he regrets it.
The
high school was in another village, too far to walk. Now he cannot
write, and must find someone else to read him even the most personal of
letters.
He
says he promised Maimuna she could carry on going to school, even if it
meant he had to find work in town. But he also worried.
'If
she is educated, she will be looking down on me because I didn't go to
school, so she will be the husband and I will be the wife,' he explains.
Maimuna
said she did not love him and begged her father to let her stay in
school. She had always been a good daughter, obedient, hard-working and
popular among her friends, so her stubborn refusal to accept her
marriage surprised her parents.
Rescue: Sympathetic family members took Maimuna in, and she is now able to attend school again
But
her wishes were not up for discussion. Her father was clear on what
counts: 'It's what is good for the family and the community.'
The
link between child marriage and education is clear. Only 2 percent of
married girls in Nigeria go to school, compared to 69 percent of
unmarried girls, according to the United Nations.
Some 73 percent of married girls received no schooling, and three out of four cannot read at all.
Many of Maimuna's friends from school were already married and not one was happy, but they had no idea how to escape.
Nobody prepared Maimuna for the marriage bed. There was no advice, no warning of what to expect, even from her married friends.
She
settled into a new life where she felt like a slave. When she wasn't
working in the fields, she was cleaning, carrying water and firewood,
cooking and at the beck and call of her husband's demanding parents.
Every day she was exhausted, and when she finally got to bed, her husband wanted to 'bother' her, she says.
He never kept his promise to let her go to school.
When
she objected to her treatment, her husband locked her into their hut,
for days. He would not even allow her to visit her parents.
Maimuna bided her time until the rainy season was over and her husband went to town to find work.
Nine months ago, she took off, escaping to her father and begging him to let her return home.
Instead, he whipped her until her back was raw. Then he summoned her husband and forced her to go back to him.
Saidu,
humiliated and furious, slapped her repeatedly in the face, jerking her
head from side to side with the force of his blows.
She fled once again, first to a sympathetic aunt in a nearby village and then to a cousin in Kaduna.
She
now shares one cramped room with her cousin's family, just a short walk
away from Tattalli school, down a dusty alley and along a road lined by
open drains stinking of stagnant water.
When Maimuna showed up at the school, she had been badly beaten and refused to speak, says teacher Victoria Dung.
They took her to the hospital, where doctors found she was badly malnourished. The whip marks on her back may last a lifetime.
Her
husband waited the customary three months to make sure there was no
baby. Then he divorced her, as a husband can do under shariah or Islamic
law by declaring the divorce aloud three times.
He informed her parents of the divorce in a letter dated Feb. 14, which he could not write himself.
Maimuna
considers herself among the lucky ones. She balances a broken chair on a
tree stump at the school to sit in front of a sewing machine, learning
to make garments she can sell in the market.
She thinks she'd like nursing, and wants to master English and Arabic.
'I
don't know what I want to be when I grow up but, even if I get married,
I want to have some education to back me up,' she says in her native
Hausa, with a teacher translating.
'I
pray that what I have done will help the younger ones, that my parents
learn from the experience of my running away from home.'
It is by no means certain.
After her departure, Maimuna's father called a community meeting to discuss the problem with elders.
He
says he knows of many girls who ran away from home because of
marriages, but the elders have not yet come up with a solution.
Some
girls are rebelling in other ways. A 14-year-old forced to marry a
39-year-old in April poisoned the groom's food a week after their
wedding, killing him and three of his friends.
Abdullahi denies beating his daughter, and says he is no longer angry with her.
He insists he is happy that she has found a place where she can get the education she craves.
Yet he gets visibly upset, the tendons in his neck standing out, as he describes the financial problem she has left him.
Maimuna's former husband is demanding back his money, but Abdullahi has spent it on land.
And
Saidu already has land - what he wants is cash, so he can look for
another bride. Abdullahi does not know where he will find it.
Asked
if he will treat his five younger daughters differently, he is
ambivalent. The eyes in his chiseled face narrow, and he looks down at
the ground.
'I would allow my daughters to go to school if I had the money. I have seen what happens, otherwise,' he says.
'But my reason is poverty, always financial problems. What can I do but give them out in marriage?'
Saidu, in the meantime, says he no longer cares for Maimuna and will move ahead with his life.
'This
time I will marry a girl of 12, so that she will do what I want to do,'
he says. 'Because if you marry a girl who is older, then she will not
listen to you.'
As
he speaks, his eyes slide to the porch where Maimuna's 10-year-old
sister, Hafsat, is cuddling a neighbor's baby. A sly smile curls his
lips.
Islam shld b abolishd let's av peace
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