Women have
long been known to weave theatrics into their sex lives - 'headaches'
when we aren't in the mood, faked orgasms for a whole range of reasons -
but most of us presume men to be far more simple when it comes to sex.
Not according to a recent study conducted by Time Out, which found that over 30per cent of the New York men they polled admitted to faking orgasms.
A
separate recent survey by the University of Kansas - as well as several
others over time - corroborated this 30per cent statistic exactly. It
reported that most men give the same reason for faking it: that a
partner's orgasm was imminent so they felt under pressure to climax.
Mission accomplished: A recent study found that
over 30per cent of its male subjects questioned admitted to faking
orgasms, backing up several other similar surveys which concluded the
same
Logistically
speaking, according to a quick browse through various men's health
publications, faking an orgasm is pretty easy for a man when he's
wearing a condom, and pretty difficult without - but either way, it is
indeed more common than you might think.
Last year, Dr Abraham Morgentaler, a Harvard urology professor, even published a book about it, entitled Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men And Sex, drawing on his lengthy experience treating men's sexual problems.
Dr
Morgentaler claims some men can feel compelled to perform sexually even
when they aren't in the mood, in order to match up to the status quo.
'While
it's OK for a woman to say she's too tired to make love, or has a
headache - in fact it's so common there are jokes about it - it's not
acceptable for men,' he said.
'The image is that men are always up for sex, which makes you feel under pressure to perform even when you don't want to.'
She's a pro: As seen in the infamous Meg Ryan
scene from When Harry Met Sally (pictured), women tend to be better
known for faking it, and most often for the same reasons as men - so as
not to hurt a partner's feelings
According to Dr Morgentaler, other men are simply more concerned with being kind.
‘The
big surprise to me when I started doing this work 25 years ago is that
once a man is in a relationship, he seems to care more about his partner
than himself,' he says.
'In
their minds, [faking an orgasm is] actually a form of kindness. In a
way, they're letting the other person know that they've done a good
job.'
'In their minds, faking
an orgasm is actually a form of kindness. In a way, they're letting
the other person know that they've done a good job'
The
question of why both men and women fake orgasms has long been a topic of
discussion among scientists, but it seems our primary motives could be
the same.
A
study which was published in Archives of Sexual Behavior this March
found that of the 481 sexually active U.S. college-age women questioned,
the number one motive for faking orgasms given was - just like men - so
as not to hurt their partner's feelings.
So
is it healthy to deceive the opposite sex when it comes to the Big O?
Most sex therapists seem to agree that once in a while, there's nothing
wrong with a 'white lie' performance, but fake it too often, and you may
have a bigger problem on your hands.
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